 There's been a whole spate of "Twue Doms are Charming Gentlemen" (because teh wommenz and genderqueers can never be doms amirite?) posts on Kinky and Popular lately, and it's annoying me enough that I want to word vomit on here. I am picking on this K&P post by WPEx 92M Switch because I am lazy, and it is convenient, although this post is by no means the only or worse offender. It's emblematic of an argument I'm going to call the..."No Twue Dom" argument, in a less-than-creative riff on the fallacy of the No True Scotsman. (Two points of reference: if you don't know what the No True Scotsman fallacy is, I give you the power of wikipedia, which explains it far better than I could. Second point of reference: the BDSM community has a tendency to use "twue" to signal derisive mocking of those purporting some essentialized version of BDSM, usually D/s. While I love me some mocking of essential-izers, unfortunately the "Oh yes you're a twueeee dom" line seems to crop up mostly in arguments about who the "most awesomest and kinkiestestest" dom or sub is. I'd like to see it in (the currently non-existent) discussions about problematic assumptions within the Community. But whatever, we all know that my standards are too high.) So anyway, this argument goes something like, "Twue doms are safe, care about your safety, and never take advantage of you." This guy doesn't seem to specifically go into the "Doms are also all male gentlemen protecting those wee little lamblike subbie girlies," although he does use masculine pronouns to refer to the "asshole" and does not affix the gender-inflection "me" onto Dom at any point. (I guess somewhere along the line people tried to femme up "Dom" by making it "Domme," and while I have nothing against femme-ing things up, the effect has been that "Dom," the default term for a d-type or toppy-type, has come to signal a male BDSMer almost exclusively, thereby making the default d-type appear to be male. When referring to both genders, now people have to write Dom/me. Or anyway, that's my circuitous way of explaining it.) So anyway, right off the bat there's this gross misogynistic narrative of "TWUE MANLY MEN PROTECT TEH WOMMENZ" into this argument that "TWUE DOMLY DOM PROTECT TEH WOMMENZ," although of course it's all encoded and implicit and quiet-like. So that if someone like me complains, dude can be all, "FEMINISTS WHY U SO SENSITIVE?" So let's turn to the text now. I give you: You're not a Dom. You're an asshole.
You're not a Dom. You're an asshole.
I've been in, out and around the fet scene for longer than I care to say. I've watched interactions between fetishists, Doms, subs, tops, bottoms and everything in between. I've felt the urge to write about this particular annoyance of mine for some time. I've read other peoples comments and journals, but I thought I would add my two cents as well.
So we start off with the "No Twue Scotsman" thing in the first two lines. Great, at least I know what direction the bullshit will be flying from early off. Now we establish the "I know everything, I'm this awesome ass Dom who REALLY GETS the Scene, amirite?" line. I see it all the time, I tend to see it from male Doms, it annoys me. Stop it. You're not that great.
But what I really what to point out here is this sentence: his particular annoyance of mine for some time. Our author goes on to be very specific about the type of asshole he is talking about. He's not talking about "that guy who takes shits in the punch bowl and won't clean it up." He's talking about predators. Rapists. Serial abusers. People who leave their victims physically and emotionally scarred. Look at the text: They're the ones who will sit watching others and calculating who they can prey on. Or they will be overly friendly as they figure out the best way to quickly gain trust and move in for the kill. To them it's a game of command and conquer.
and later, more explicitly... I've seen assholes force a newbie into a situation that left them bleeding, weeping, discarded and one step short of raped after only a brief email exchange. We've all heard horror stories where suspensions have gone terribly wrong from over confident and clueless assholes, where people have been left permanently disfigured and where the emotional damage has taken years to repair because of these situations. (emphasis mine)
You know, when I want to speak out against these guys and girls, it's usually because, um, THEY ARE CAUSING PEOPLE TO BLEED AND WEEP, AND THEY ARE RAPING THEM, PERMANENTLY DISFIGURING THEM, AND LEAVING THEM WITH EMOTIONAL DAMAGE THAT HAS TAKEN YEARS TO REPAIR. Not because it "annoys" me. Because I'm a twue Dom, and they're not, and I'm a gentlemen, and I scorn these people. This guy is clearly living in a world where he could look at these predators and shitstains and his thought can be "this annoys me, because it's not real BDSM," and not, "Holy shit, I could be their next target, what can I or we do?" Because he's not vulnerable. He's the knight in shining armor saving us from these predators. He's a guy who can rest in all his cozy little Dom-privilege and say this to the devastated "newbie:"
TThe newbie will think that this is how it is and that it's normal. It's not. You've been used. By an asshole.
Hey, asshole (yeah you, writer, not the predators mentioned in the article): try ABused. Raped. Assaulted. "Permanently disfigured." You make it sound like these assholes are prom kings dating some freshman because the fresher is pretty and rich and he wants to look cool and ride in her dad's car. That is "USING." THE PEOPLE YOU ARE DESCRIBING *AB*USE. Stop downplaying it, asshole. Don't say shit like this:
This particular behaviour is exceptionally loathsome to me. Contempt for other people is contemptuous in itself. (Emphasis mine)
I'm glad it's so "loathesome to YOU," and that it's so contemptuous. I see this more as a crime against someone's autonomy, safety, and humanity, but WHATEVS. Like, I really can't get over how flippantly this guy feels about these "assholes." For one, they're really not assholes, they're PREDATORS. They're not an annoyance, they're a public menace. And they're not something I can pompously condemn as some "loathsome" and "contemptuous" lowlife, they're an active danger that is so pervasive and so problematic that it has driven me away from the public BDSM scene. Someone on a re-posted version of the article explains it succinctly: Unfortunately, I have been subjected to this many times when I 1st came into the scene. They were relentless, and you really do feel hunted like prey in person and online. They crowd your personal space (even try to touch you) and try to sweet talk you but it comes off and feels horribly sleazy & gross. I had treated them like I would any unknown person- moving away if they get too close, and standing my ground when I detect them coming on to me like I'm a brainless moo-cow. It surprised them that I was in fact very strong-minded, aware, and independent and like [redacted] said, they were very vocal and verbally abusive when I didn't fall for their bullshit. I responded by cussing them the hell out and blocking their pathetic ass.
That's not even to mention the ugly whiff of victim-blaming in the post. Check it out: Not all people who are emotionally vulnerable or newbies fall prey to the asshole. Many are smarter than that. (emphasis added)
HAHA GET IT ONLY STUPID PEOPLE GET PREYED ON!
 The Wall of Shame: bringing you the absolute worst of the fetish community, courtesy of fetlife.com! Today's theme will be listing anyone who seems to not understand the concept that IT IS NEVER OKAY TO HAVE SEX WITHOUT INDICATION OF POSITIVE, AFFIRMATIVE CONSENT FROM ONE'S PARTNER.(Yes, yes, it's hot to have sexy times when one partner is pretending to struggle and to hate it--but the "pretending" is the key. There is only the pretense of non-consent--the consent is still there and is being conveyed via the absence of a safeword. You can't ever actually consent to not-consenting. Mostly because...that doesn't make sense.) There are a lot of people--especially Domly dudes--on fetlife who doesn't understand this. Question 1: My Dom had sex with me even though I didn't give him permission...is this rape, or is this just normal D/s? (Spoiler alert: it's rape.)
(Find full thread here.) A poster tells us this, in a series of five comments:
i am very new to kink and today my dom came over and proceded to have intercourse with me.. but i did not give him permission to do so.. i feel very dirty and upset and i can not tell anyone. since my dom is a good friend of the family and they don't know that i am in the lifestyle and him either.. i guess i just need some one to talk to or help me to understand things.. much appreciated...
maybe its just me.. i Don't know. we never came up with a contract or anything maybe i am over reacting who knows.. but thank you anyways
yes i should have used a safe word i guess i just froze or something.. maybe me being a sub isnt the way i should go in the lifestyle sincei have only started in the lifestyle.
thats the thing. he just started being my dom as i just started out in the lifestyle. usually when i do scenes i have someone there with me. this time there wasnt and i was in sub space when it happend so i had no clue what was going i know it sounds like a fake post since everyone thinks that is what is going on but that is the truth
ive known him in RL for 6 years.. i only been in the lifestyle for maybe 5 months or so.. usually we just do scenes with someone present. i have given him permission for scenes but not for sex.. He just started out as my mentor
Let's see which assholes don't understand the principal that non-consensual sex is never okay.
MasterLeo2 47M Master: As His submissive you should be sexually available to Him at all times.
Then there's this charming tidbit from Aestash 19M Dom, who thinks that the OP must not be a submissive and that talking to her partner about the incident will "ruin the mood:"
I think if you feel like you're being taken advantage of, the sub role might not be for you. Sub means submissive, which means you're not the one with control, you like to be dominated. My sub enjoys being told what to do, I even control when she can use the bathroom.
Maybe the kink is more of a playful idea for you in the bedroom, during concensual sex I guess, but I can't tell for sure you know?
If you wanna go on from here, I think you got 2 options; either talk to your dom about it, which somewhat ruins the submissive role, but if that's what it takes for you to get deeper into it, DON'T be afraid to do it! The other one might be along the lines of getting used to it. Bite the sour apple for a while, see if you get more into it without telling the dom about how you feel.
Either way, the D/s relationship is enjoyed on BOTH sides, so if you don't enjoy it, stop whatever is going on, think about it, talk about it, then try to revisit it with a fresh point of view. Either way, don't let the dom control you if you don't enjoy every aspect of it. Kink is both a choice and a lifestyle, some a born into it, some grow into it with time.
I hope it helps.
No, asshole, it doesn't help. And on that note, let's look at some people who also don't seem to understand the difference between "yes I want to have sex with you" and "I identify as submissive." Question 2: If a submissive woman doesn't want to give me a blow-job, should I (a) respect her decision or (b) rape her? (Spoiler alert: don't rape her. Rape is bad.)A user with the name WhitePowerNYC (I'm SURE this guy isn't a racist! *snort*) asks this non-question in the group #women_are_property_of_MEN (full discussion here):Women who refuse to Give Blowjobs. I am wanting to know the opinions of both the Masters and slaves on this topic.
If you think the title of the group with attract scummy misogynists...you're right! Just ask KingFrederick 56M Dom: master here............... all my girls/gurls sucks my cock, or they will be beaten, raped, and forced skull---raped by me_______________period!
Or ask Wulantowag 64M Dom who seems not to get the whole "fantasy/reality" divide: As owned property she has no option to refuse to suck cock, swallow, be face fucked when I do desire. She has no rights. She exits solely to do as I instruct her. Any attempt to refuse to perform a given task that I know she is capable of will be dealt with immediately and in a manner designed to correct the behavior.
Men aren't the only ones advocating rape. Rachelle_h 24F slave, who according to her other comments seems to think that all women are inherently submissive, thinks that the idea that a woman could refuse is only an "illusion." I don't know what that really means, but it sure sounds bad! A woman would only refuse because she believes that she has a choice. Property has no choice of course. It's not the sexual act that is being rejected, it is her clinging on to the illusion that she is capable of choice. I love giving blow jobs; taste, smell, textures, sounds, but "me" isn't what makes me love it. It's Him.
Getting back to the boys, SirSteelDragon 47M Master thinks forcible rape, with or without the aid of a device that forces the mouth open, would be a good way to solve the problem:
if the girl is your property and refuses - you take it or dismiss her and get another
I had one like that and a ring gag solved that problem
if they don't want ot play by your rules - find another
property slaves have no choice
Ramoncrac 34M Master doesn't appear to be a native English speaker, but bad grammar doesn't hide his relish of rape!
if refuse are forced and raped, if after hard punishment refuse again is moment to search other use where are 24/7/365 gagged
And again, just to prove that it's not just the dudes, Staros 36F sub, advocates repeated rape until the woman "learns her place:" Maybe she just needs to be retrained? Face fucking her till she learns her place and will understand she does not have a choice. I can not imagine refusing but if I did then it probably means I need reminding of my place.
But Criseyde, isn't this just their personal kinks? Maybe this is just a fantasy for them!
I really hate having to spell it out, but let's spell it out anyway: NON-CONSENT IS NOT A VALID KINK. NON-CONSENT IS ABUSE.
Sure, you can play with "consensual non-consent." But that doesn't actually mean that someone can consent to not-consenting. It means that there is an illusion that the scene is non-consensual, but deep down both partners want it to happen.
But what if this is "fantasy" space for them? I wrote in a paper once that one of the big problems in the kink scene is the inability for the boundaries of "scene spaces" to stay clear and enforced. Is this scene space or is this vanilla space? It's not defined as scene space--there's absolutely nothing in the group descriptions to suggest that it's a fantasy group. And if all these personas really are fantasy personas? If this is one big masquerade put on by a horny teenager in Bumfuckshitsville, Nowhereland, USA? Well, once again, we see the erosion of the "scene" and "Scene," that is, "fantasytopia" and the "fetish community." It's why people think that all women in the fetish community want to be groped, or think all submissive women should be submissive ever...a kind of "consent by showing up." And I, for one, am uncomfortable with that. Because it's a felony. But also because...WTF...ew. Gross.
All right, time to take a shower.
Maybe I'm just a big ole meanie who wears grandma underwear, but I don't find this satire of Kinky and Popular posts particularly funny. Courtesy of vaginger 92F slave:2. Be wary and cautious around Dominant men with penises. The bastards.
3. Dont go on a meetup without body armor, mace, a tank, explosives and a gaggle of ninjas. Safe calls are vital. To account for the possibility of him raping and murdering you after the safe call though, have all your friends call you every 3 minutes until you get home. You can always talk to each other on the next date.
4. Do not deal with any man who wont give you all his bitter, crazy, bias , ranting ex submissive names and addresses for a reference. If he is local then its likely everyone you know has been his sub so it will be really easy to get a reference.
HAHAHAHAHA, isn't it SO FUNNY to mock women who try to protect themselves against the odds-totally-aren't-in-their-favor risk of sexual assault in the community?
FRIGID FEMINAZI BIOTCHESSSS!!!!1111!!!!111!!!
Of course, as soon as something bad happens, the Peanut Gallery has a "so why WEREN'T you wearing body armor and mace and a tank and explosives, did you actually want it, LYING SLUT, omg FALSE ACCUSER!!!!111!!" wankfest.
Ya can't win with this crowd.
Today's "Kinky and Popular once again reveals serious, endemic issues within the BDSM community" rant is brought to you courtesy of ColoDom, 61 M Dom. Unfortunately I have to make this a quickie, because I have a gi-fucking-normous paper about Vikings due in T-minus...well, let's not think about that. So ColoDom is not making my wall of shame today, because I actually do not take issue with much of what he has written. Sure, he falls into the typical "I'm going to reinforce the notion that male=dom and female=sub and if you don't like it, NAH NAH NAH NAH NAH NAH *blows raspberry.*" I know why that's deeply problematic, and it chafes me, but I'm in a charitable mood and am going to chalk it up to lack of education and awareness as well as a general laziness (why type two pronouns when you can type one!). Anyway, the reason I am going on a rant about this particular piece of writing is because it pains and disgusts me that this writing even has to be written. Why should this be controversial? In fact, this thing that is so controversial is something that the BDSM community regularly tells the outside world is *essential* to BDSM itself, is part of what separates BDSM from serial killing and abuse. So, this is all very cryptic. As I say to my students blathering on without opening their actual fucking copy of Hamlet: to the text!Titled "What a Sub Is and Isn't: One Dom's Perspective," the piece already acknowledges that this is just his opinion, one subjective puny little opinion. The title doesn't demand his definition be universal nor does it claim that the opinions he argues against are inherently problematic--which they are. Once again, the Scene proves that it is so tolerant that its brain--by which I mean any sense of "right and wrong" or any sense of any kind of normative ethical system ever--has completely fallen out and gone ka-splat on the semen-encrusted dungeon floor. I sometimes see comments suggesting a sub should not be given pleasure or satisfaction, physical or emotional. Why not? Shouldn't a sub's needs be met too? Do you not, as a Dom, have a responsibility to meet the needs of the sub, just as she meets your needs?
Wait...what? What are these comments and where are they? I thought BDSMers were always going on about how "BDSM isn't abuse, the sub wants it, it's all about granting each other pleasure even if the pleasure is gained through paradoxical or non-intuitive means, such as pain or degradation!" and blah blah blah. Even when it appears that the sub's needs "aren't being met," we are told, paradoxically the subs needs *are* being met because he, she, or zie is desirous of the state of not having her needs met. It's like the chastity thing: by denying someone an orgasm you are fulfilling their erotic need not to have an orgasm. It's not fucking rocket science, people.
So either this guy is constructing a strawman bigger than Kilimanjaro, or there really are people out there who don't get that [Submissives] are not less intelligent, less worthy, less important. A woman (yes, I'm writing from a male Dom, female sub perspective. Get over it. If you wish, substitute the gender of your choice. The point is the same.) who is submissive is as much a valuable soul as any other person, kinky or not. In fact, she has great value.
From what I have seen of the kink community, it is unlikely he is massively misinterpreting the group of people he argues against. No matter how many times BDSM groups insist that they are all about respect and equality, this guy had to write a post saying, "Hey women--cuz women=sub and men=dom, am i rite--aren't actually all worthless fuck holes after all, and they have needs that you should meet, which after all is supposedly the point of what we're doing right?" It begs the question: these people who don't think women's needs should be met--how do they conceive of BDSM? If a woman doesn't want this, if it's not meeting some kind of erotic need...what's the point? And why are you okay with doing whatever you are doing? How do you sleep at night? I'm going to chalk this up to more evidence that the scene is filled with tons of people who are gender essentialist, misogynist, and are inflicted with the dangerous and mind-blowingly delusional inability to differentiate fantasy from reality. What ColoDom is saying SHOULDN'T HAVE TO BE SAID, except to counter whatever drivel is coming out of Bill O'Reilly's mouth. The fact that ColoDom not only feels the need to say this but feels the need to *qualify* it as *just his opinion*.....
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*bangs head against computer*
And rage begat exhaustion and exhaustion begat fear of the impending essay deadline and thus endeth the rant.
So, I was hoping to be able to start this blog off on, you know, a more positive note. But after a casual stroll through Kinky and Popular, I have become so pissed off that I need to verbal-diarrhea to the internet for a while. Don't want to hear it? Stop fucking pissing me off, you misogynist, victim-blaming baboon butts.
Ahem.
So if you don't already know, Kinky and Popular is a particularly idiotic section of the cess-pooly wankfest that is Fetlife.com, the kinky person's version of Facebook. Fetlife has the advantages of allowing porn (and oh god, the porn *barfs*), ads for sex products, and permitting user names such as "SlavetoDaddysBigCock." Yeah okay whatever gets your kink.
Fetlife.com also means that the average pervert can be observed in an inhibition-free habitat--and, after much observation and many field notes, I have come to conclude that the average FL users seem to throw misogynistic, racist, ableist BS around like monkeys throwing shit in cages. Do monkeys throw shit in cages? I don't know. But lemurs make fucking weird noises, so let's go with lemurs. Like lemurs throwing shit in cages.
So there was this especially precious specimen on Fetlife's Kinky and Popular today. Get ready, you're going to need some goggles and protective gloves for this bad boy.
Our first candidate for the Wall of Shame: Dulcet_Masochist, 36F slave.
It's really quite precious: Victims.Victims. I want to say "you know who you are," but the sad thing is, you don't.You don't know who you are, you who have chosen to be victims. You see yourself victorious. You imagine yourself wizened from your wounds, which you pick and scratch and dig at, to keep them fresh for examination by passers-by. You believe yourself to be stronger. An example. Someone to be emulated. You are NONE of these things. You are small. You are pitiable. You are pathetic.
So, you've been hurt, huh? You've been casually cast aside and emotionally injured by someone you loved. Guess who else that's happened to? EVERYBODY.And to each of us, our heartache is just as powerful as yours is to you. Those wounds don't make you special. They make you human. One of the rest of us.
How long ago did this big awful abusive mean Dom hurt you? How long ago was your heart crushed? Was it last week? Last month? Last year?
And was it truly abuse of power? Did he injure you? Did he cause you bodily harm? Did he tie you up and force you to do all the things on your list of hard limits one by one? Two at a time, even? Or do you simply feel he didn't follow through on the emotional promise you were holding onto?
A failed relationship... even with a liar... does NOT equal abuse. Hear it? Please hear it. Those two things are NOT the same.
Happiness is not easy to find. Were it easy to find, we'd ALL have it.
Well, you know, my boyfriend and I have joked that our PTSD gives us super magical superhero powers--we can totes time travel, although we can't pick when we do it or what time we go back to! But mostly it's a joke. Otherwise I don't know any woman who has been like, "Yo, I'm a horrible traumatized wreck and that means I'm better than you, bizzzzitch."
But I mean that's not really the main point. Let's go over this shall we?
Okay, so even though supposedly I and the 1 in 3 women who have been raped in their lifetimes and the countless others who have been abused physically and emotionally have "chosen" our victim status, we don't know who we are. Um, okay. That's kind of weird, but whatever, maybe she's referring to some deeper metaphysical "you" or something. But like, seriously? This b.s. about "choosing" to be a victim. Oh yeah, one day I woke up and I was definitely like, "Wow, I really want to wallow in my pain and sit around dwelling in all my pain and suffering, thereby causing me more pain and suffering, guess I'll go get me some nice juicy ole PTSD." Does this woman get how the human brain works? For someone preaching empathy and the magic of the vagina (transphobia, w00t!) and forgiveness... I am talking to the women right now. All my fellow women out there. And I'm gonna be frank. Because I own a uterus. Because I have earned the right to speak directly and candidly to you, my sisters. Because you gotta hear this. You have to hear this...
...We are WOMEN. We are all magic, and mystery, and moondust. We have the power of CREATION in us. We have potential for great and powerful things. Will you waste your potential over a lost relationship? Will you board up your heart, then aim anger toward those who have the nerve to arrive without a crowbar? Or... or will you choose to become more? To become stronger and better? To elevate and grow? To ensure not your survival, but your happiness? I
She's not very good at the empathy thing herself is she? I mean, she tells women who have been abused, raped, or just plain worn out by the endless whirlpool of violence, sexism, victim-blaming, and just plain old poop that is chucked at them in the Scene, she calls them "pathetic." And "pitiable." And "small." I mean Jesus Fucking Oysters, that's the kind of stuff you say to the rapists. To the abusers!
I have honestly never encountered a "Pick yourself up and get over it, you magical moondusty vagina!" piece that is this plain cruel before. I mean, usually these tropes of "personal responsibility" and "forgiveness" are pretty hurtful anyway, but "pathetic?" Listen, kid, if I'm going to call anyone pathetic here, it's the guys, women, and gender-fluid human beings that are *causing* all this hurt and shame and anger to begin with.
And you know, the worst part is that she doesn't even leave the possibility open that she's just talking to the whiny 14 year olds who think that their lives are over!!!111!!! because Dreamy Rob wouldn't go to the movies with them. She is absolutely explicit in who she is targeting: How long ago did this big awful abusive mean Dom hurt you? How long ago was your heart crushed? Was it last week? Last month? Last year?
And was it truly abuse of power? Did he injure you? Did he cause you bodily harm? Did he tie you up and force you to do all the things on your list of hard limits one by one? Two at a time, even? Or do you simply feel he didn't follow through on the emotional promise you were holding onto?
A failed relationship... even with a liar... does NOT equal abuse. Hear it? Please hear it. Those two things are NOT the same.
Ha, well you know what, you're right, since my ex-Lord Domly Pants didn't crack my skull open but only left me with a lasting and debilitating mental disorders--haha, yeah, you're right, it was actually just a failed relationship. Nothing abusive about that! And there was this one time or two times or three times he raped me, but since he didn't tie me down with titanium cables and threaten me with a bazooka, obviously I must have really wanted it right? SILLY ME, THANK YOU CONDESCENDING LADY ON THE INTERNET, FOR EXPLAINING MY LIFE TO ME. And God forbid you have candid discussions with your next partner about whatever you suffered. Hurry up and put your make up back on, you have the menz folks to be entertaining you know, and they can't be bothered with all your silly feminine wiles: Strength is quiet, sisters. Strength lies in getting up every day and doing the things you need to do, even when you hurt. Strength, true strength, lies in picking yourself up after a failed relationship, even if you were done wrong... even if he LIED and CHEATED, and opening your heart back up for the next one. Opening up your heart, dusting it out, cleaning out all the used up kleenex and candy wrappers and wadded-up love poems. Airing out the staleness and making it nice for the NEXT one. Because he doesn't deserve to live among the teetering towers of shit you've been stockpiling from your ended relationships.
Look, Condescending Lady on the Internet, please get this through your sick head: fourteen year olds sobbing because they just realized they will never marry Justin Beiber DOES NOT EQUAL women in the scene expressing the harm, hurt, shame, pain, and lingering consequences of what they have suffered. Please write that sentence down and look at it before you try this again.
By the way, can someone please fucking explain to me why everyone always assumes that all women are submissive, all men are dominant, and that gay couples, genderfluid people, and trans* folk ("all women have a magical uterus") don't exist? ER)(*#)$(#*#$)#(*$)#(*$)(#*$#
*bangs head on the computer*
You know what. Why don't I read some fucking Hegel. Because honestly, even though Hegel writes shit like this... On the other side the notion of pure insight is seen to be something else than its own object; for just this negative character constitutes the object. Thus from the other side it also expresses the ultimate Being of belief as something foreign to self-consciousness, something that is not a bone of its bone, but is surreptitiously foisted on it like a changeling child. But here enlightenment is entirely foolish; belief experiences it as a way of speaking which does not know what it is saying, and does not understand the facts of the case when it talks about priestly deception, and deluding the people. It speaks about this as if by means of some hocus-pocus of conjuring priestcraft there were foisted on consciousness as true Reality something that is absolutely foreign, and absolutely alien to it; and yet says all the while that this is an essential reality for consciousness, that consciousness believes in it, trusts in it, and seeks to make it favourably disposed towards itself, i.e. that consciousness therein sees its pure ultimate Being just as much as its own single and universal individuality, and creates by its own action this unity of itself with its essential reality. In other words, it directly declares that to be the very inmost nature of consciousness which it declares to be something alien to consciousness.
...I honestly think I can understand that hunk of crappily translated German block of Hegelspeak more than I can understand the bullshit that is the Kink Community.
Keep it classy, pervs.
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